Cooking Without Fear: Good Food Is Easier Than You Think

Updated: May 18, 2021

My name is Bobby Faria as you might have guessed since this blog is on

I'm writing this under the name Food and Music. The Music part of this new name, you already know about... and we'll talk about the Food part shortly, but here's a picture of my kitchen to give you a little background.

The sign over the stove top was a Birthday gift from my wife Karen who passed away a few years ago.

It was meant as a tribute to my transition from Culinary Menace to le Chef de Maison

Since you arrived at this page via my music website, you may know that I'm a guitarist, a saxophone player and a singer. I have been playing music in bands since the 1970's, and I spend a good deal of my time writing and recording songs that I enjoy inflicting on anyone who will listen.

I primarily work around the Boston area in different capacities with bands such as these:

The Bobby Faria Band, Driftwood Classic Rock and Bobby Hickman and The Sidemen

and I also Sell My Music through this website as well as promoting it on where I post music videos of my songs.

(By the way, all the Greenish underlined words here are links that you can click)

This is an Actual Un-Retouched Photo (NO.. it isn't !!!)

If you know me, you most likely know my wife,

Kathy (Vassalotti) Faria too. Kathy and I were married last September 28th, but we've been together since 2016.

In our domestic life, the arrangement is, that I'm the Master of the Kitchen and Basement and that she is in charge of Everything Else.

In addition to proof reading and performing all the Quality Assurance for all the musical things that I do, Kathy is the one who keeps in touch with the world through Facebook. If you follow her posts there, you have probably seen some of the meals that I have made because Kathy likes to take a picture of the food I make for her and post it for the world to see. Since I'm the chef, I find it quite flattering.

What most people don't know about me though is

For most of my life... I had absolutely no idea of how to prepare food.

I Was AbsolutelyTerrified of Cooking

TRUE STORY: When I was about 15, I used to enjoy watching the Galloping Gourmet on TV. I never thought about actually cooking anything, I just liked to watch the show. Graham Kerr was a very entertaining host, he made really elegant food and he always had a glass of wine going throughout the entire show.

So, feeling cocky one Sunday, I told my Mom I was going to make dessert for the family dinner. I spent the entire afternoon making a lemon mousse dessert. Not from scratch. Not from a recipe... From a package. All I had to do was open a little box and pour the ingredients together with a couple of eggs and some water following some simple directions. I was so nervous the whole time, that this process took me about 3 hours and on top of everything else, I made one hell of a mess in my Mother's kitchen.

That one afternoon really changed my life because it made me very leery of doing anything in the kitchen beyond opening the refrigerator or putting a Pop-Tart in the toaster.

One day many years later, I discovered The Food Network and I started watching innovative shows like Good Eats with Alton Brown. It was an educational show about all kinds of dishes that we eat all the time, and you learned how to make them, but he also talked about the science and history behind the food... It was entertaining, informative and it was always fun.

And then I ran across a cooking show called Emeril Live ...

This one I watched every day. I loved it!!

I firmly believe that Emeril and this show

changed my life once again... this time for the better!

There was a kick-ass band that played at the beginning and end of the show (but not nearly enough, unfortunately).

There were guest chefs from all over the world... and then, most importantly, there was Emeril Lagasse,

Emeril, despite being about as entertaining and "down to earth" as a TV host can get, was also a classically trained chef, restauranteur and experienced teacher of the culinary arts.

There was something about the way he talked and sounded that struck a chord with me. In fact, it turned out that I had a few things in common with Emeril. I found out that although his last name is French, his mother is Portuguese like my family is. As Emeril says, "Mom ran the house, so we grew up Portuguese." Then I found out that although he's a famous TV chef with Louisiana style restaurants all over the country including New Orleans, he is actually from

Fall River, Massachusetts about 3 blocks from where both my parents (and ME) were born. His house was right down the hill from both my grandmother's and most of the rest of my extended family. So naturally, I couldn't help but feel a kinship with him.

Emeril's TV show was able to convince me that even someone like me can actually learn how to cook. He accomplished this feat, through the repetition of catch-phrases such as

"Pork Fat Rules!"

"This tastes so good, you’d eat it off a car bumper"

"I don't know where you get your beef, but where I get mine ...


And WHEN things inevitably go wrong at the stove, to remind us to not lose our cool, he would often repeat mantras like this one ...

"Relax! If your sauce is getting too dry ...

Don't Call Food 911...

just ADD SOME LIQUID ! ! "

or to keep guys like me from burning everything because we cooked on HIGH heat, he taught us to turn down the heat by constantly repeating

"Use Your Knobs..."

All these things added up, and over time I began to realize that I was cooking delicious meals pretty much every day. Most of the time, without a recipe.

Believe me...That is a really good feeling.

I'd like for you to be able to experience that feeling too!

  • I'd like to share the skills that I have acquired and learn some new ones from YOU

  • I want you to Lose All Fear of the kitchen and I want to share simple, delicious recipes that you can make even if you're not quite "Fearless" yet.

  • From time to time, I might throw in a music video or maybe a guitar or saxophone lesson. Or maybe a story or two from my experience over the many years that I played with some of Boston's finest musicians.

  • But Most of All ... I'd LOVE to hear from other Home Chefs and Musicians about your experiences either in the Kitchen or on Stage

I hope you and your family can benefit from my journey I made as I transitioned from being a Culinary Menace to actually surprising myself with how easy Cooking Without Fear can be.


Until the Next Time ... So Long from Bob's Diner

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